Monday, June 13, 2011

I have a confession

Sometimes we co-sleep. I know many people believe that this is a horrible thing to do. I've heard all the reasons why. It's hard on a marriage to have a child in bed with you. The child will form the habit of sleeping with you and you won't be able to break it. You might roll over on your baby.

Kendall and I co-sleeping when she was 2 weeks old

It started when Kendall was first born. You know how people say newborns are only awake for an hour or so at a time? They lied were mistaken. Kendall was a night owl for the first 2 months of here life. She would be awake from 10 or 11pm until 4 or 5am every single night. She didn't fuss or cry, unless I tried to put her down. She would just lay in my arms. Sometimes she'd drift off and I'd ever so carefully put her in her bassinet. It never failed. The instant she was out of my arms her eyes would pop open and she would demand to be picked back up. I've never been big on the whole let them cry it out idea so back to my arms she would go. This is how we started to co-sleep. I would eventually fall asleep on the couch holding Kendall. It was the only way I got any sleep. At 2 months she started to sleep some at night in her crib and has been a pretty good sleeper ever since. But on nights when she is fussy, teething, sick.... We bring her to bed with us. She always starts the night in her own bed. If she wakes up we try all of the obvious things (diaper, drink, etc). If all of that checks out ok and she is still not wanting to sleep we simply bring her into our room. It doesn't happen all that often. A few times a month. But we don't see any harm in it. It hasn't formed a pattern so we don't feel that it's becoming a "habit". If she wakes up seeking the comfort of her parents we feel like it's ok to give that to her. We don't worry about squishing her and our marriage has grown stronger through parenting Kendall together. Nothing makes my heart melt the way it does watching Gary love our daughter. And who wouldn't want to wake up to Kendall's sweet little face!

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